of the Big Book, Alcoholics Anonymous, be developed and a progress repOii be brought to the 1998 Conference Literature Committee." The right answer will come, if we want it. Big Book Studies are a great source of information to help enhance your recovery from Alcoholism. Give him a chance to think it over. We must remember that ten or twenty years of drunkenness would make a skeptic out of anyone. Another feeling we are very likely to entertain is one of resentment that love and loyalty could not cure our husbands of alcoholism. Faced with alcoholic destruction, we soon became as open minded on spiritual matters as we had tried to be on other questions. We wouldnt treat sick people that way. In case he does stumble, even once, you will have to decide whether to let him go. A few are fortunate enough to be so situated that they can give nearly all their time to the work. But the ex-problem drinker who has found this solution, who is properly armed with facts about himself, can generally win the entire confidence of another alcoholic in a few hours. This seemed to me like an opportunity to be helpful, so I spent two hours talking about alcoholism, the malady, and described the symptoms and results as well as I could. An alcoholic who cannot meet them, still has an alcoholic mind; there is something the matter with his spiritual status. He wants to quit drinking and you want to help him, even if it be only a matter of good business. Give him an account of the struggles you made to stop. Every means of solving his problem which money could buy was at his disposal. This combination soon landed me on the rocks. He was on thin ice. It is probably true that you and your husband have been living too much alone, for drinking many times isolates the wife of an alcoholic. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and More concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either This page was created to provide a place where these others can be collected. After a time I returned to the hospital. God had restored his sanity. This happened soon after they wholeheartedly met a few simple requirements. Afterward, his revulsion will be terrible. There are those, too, who suffer from grave emotional and mental disorders, but many of them do recover if they have the capacity to be honest. Why? He knows that thousands of men, much like himself, have recovered. Paragraph numbers along side the text for easy reference. This advice is given for his family also. We think it dangerous if he rushes headlong at his economic problem. Perhaps your story will help him see where he has failed to practice the very precepts he knows so well. But these scrapes can generally be charged, no matter how bad, to the abnormal action of alcohol on his mind. Sometimes this was a tedious process; we hope no one else will be prejudiced for as long as some of us were. Probably there are still some misgivings. If he does not argue about religion, he will make new friends and is sure to find new avenues of usefulness and pleasure. Hagen-dazs 1-for-1 Parfait, I was through forever. Or by pot.. There is comfort in knowing you arent alone, that what youre feeling isnt unusual, and that there is a solution. Sometimes they demand that dad bring them back instantly! Here you will experience much historical and related information on the subject of Alcoholics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous history.Officially begun on December 12th, 2000, silkworth.net is now in its twentieth year and is one of the largest sites of its type in the World a repository, archive, you might say, of Alcoholics Anonymous History If there were a category, I, for one, certainly would not mind registering as a booklet. There is action and more action. Your candidate may give reasons why he need not follow all of the program. These juniors are often in a difficult position. Occasionally you will have to meet such conditions. We all have sex problems. Now, this house will hardly accommodate its weekly visitors, for they number sixty or eighty as a rule. The remorse, horror and hopelessness of the next morning are unforgettable. I was not an atheist. As our work spreads and our numbers increase, we hope your employees may be put in personal contact with some of us. As we look back, we feel we had gone on drinking many years beyond the point where we could quit on our will power. Many doctors and psychiatrists agree with our conclusions. Select the book genre. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. At the hospital I was separated from alcohol for the last time. When you have carefully explained to such people that he is a sick person, you will have created a new atmosphere. We realize we know only a little. Ask them to remember, when they are impatient, the blessed fact of his sobriety. That there is one program, one common solution (bottom of page 17). We found the Great Reality deep down within us. I went to my hotel and leisurely dressed for dinner. For years he had floundered from one sanitarium to another. But this is not all. It is harder to go to an enemy than to a friend, but we find it much more beneficial to us. He admits he cannot drink like other people, but does not see why. Under these conditions we naturally made mistakes. He should not be made a favorite. Though old buildings will eventually be replaced by finer ones, the new structures will take years to complete. They grinned, which I didnt like so much, and then asked me if I thought myself alcoholic and if I were really licked this time. Perhaps at this point we got a divorce and took the children home to father and mother. Bound in burgundy bonded leather, with gold gilding on the edges of the pages. Perhaps they created the impression that he is to be wrapped in cotton wool and placed on a pedestal. So we think cheerfulness and laughter make for usefulness. CSIC Books & Reference. Pg. The appendices have been included, giving this document a nearly identical format to the pocket edition to the Big Book. We see that these expressions refer to people whose reactions are very different from ours. Where were we to blame? The head of the house ought to remember that he is mainly to blame for what befell his home. When you come through the doors of AA, it is suggested that you purchase a Big Book. But be sure you use discretion. Remember they are very ill. Life will take on new meaning. The first 164 pages in plain text format. But we think that if you persevere, the percentage of successes will gratify you. When we do that, we find it solves our problems too; the ensuing lack of fear, worry and hurt feelings is a wonderful thing. Surrender in Big Book terms means to: "Abandon yourself to God as you understand God." (BB pg 164) Be patient. But the head of the house has spent years in pulling down the structures of business, romance, friendship, health-these things are now ruined or damaged. The rule is we must be hard on ourself, but always considerate of others. He will show you how to create the fellowship you crave. As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. A pivotal decision was made in '95: "The first 164 pages of the Big Book, the Forwards, 'The Doctor's Opinion,' 'Doctor Bob's Nightmare,' and the Appendices [will] remain the same," which was not reversed during Advisory Actions in '97, '98, '99, and 2000, leading up to publication of the 4th Edition of the Big Book in 2001. At long last I saw, I felt, I believed. Is he not usually brilliant, fast-thinking, imaginative and likeable? Do not ask that he do it for you or anyone else. Use 164andMore.com to search the Big Book and the 12&12. If that is so we are sorry, for we ourselves dont always care for people who lecture us. Their chances are less than average. Mother may complain of inattention. Club Savoy Events, The remonstrances of my friends terminated in a row and I became a lone wolf. Then, in days, weeks, or months, a fresh outburst. Of course it was. Many could recover if they had the opportunity we have enjoyed. Attempt instead, to put yourself in his place. Whether you're new to AA, or you're a seasoned veteran, this is the easiest and most useful app to aid in your recovery. When possible, avoid meeting a man through his family. Perhaps the best way of treating you to a glimpse of your future will be to describe the growth of the fellowship among us. Im sure it would work if I could only believe as he believes. Some may agree with me and some may not, but I believe that seven of the most important words in the Big Book are the last two words at the bottom of page 133 and the first five words at the top of page 134, where the Big Book says " all alcoholics should constantly have chocolate available." To me, this is proof that the Big Book is . At this point, it might be well to explain alcoholism, the illness. So we think that unless some good and useful purpose is to be served, past occurrences should not be discussed. Please check back often as we plan to share with you our experience, strength and hope as we guide . Our hope is that many alcoholic men and women, desperately in need, will see these pages, and we believe that it is only by fully disclosing ourselves and our problems that they will be persuaded to say, Yes, I am one of them too; I must have this thing.. I could go for such conceptions as Creative Intelligence, Universal Mind or Spirit of Nature but I resisted the thought of a Czar of the Heavens, however loving His sway might be. She met these responsibilities gallantly. Nearly all have recovered. Potential female alcoholics often turn into the real thing and are gone beyond recall in a few years. What had become of their judgment, their common sense, their will power? But say nothing, for the moment, of how that was accomplished. If not members of religious bodies, we sometimes select and memorize a few set prayers which emphasize the principles we have been discussing. Many of us, former patients, go there to help. Now translated into over 70 languages, it is still considered A.A.'s basic text. An all night place supplied me with a dozen glasses of ale. Had we not variously worshipped people, sentiment, things, money, and ourselves? But above all, we tried to be sensible on this question. This time we stayed broke. But they had not learned enough of humility, fearlessness and honesty, in the sense we find it necessary, until they told someone else all their life story. Comprehensive reference section includes: Word Index- and has helped such large numbers of alcoholic men and women to recover, 5-c. Has there been a desire to make any changes in it? Simply, but smilingly, he said, Ive got religion.. Admit your faults to Him and to your fellows. We asked ourselves why we were angry. e-mail: Jundia, Amparo, Atibaia, God alone can judge our sex situation. Some of us have been violently anti- religious. Understand he was once a well-known lawyer in town, but just now weve got him strapped down tight., Here was a prospect all right but, by the description, none too promising. He may not share your enthusiasm, but he is practically sure to read the book and he may go for the program at once. Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth: Job or no job-wife or no wife-we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on God. Being a large place, we think that some day its Fellowship will number many hundreds. He was as much a fact as we were. Beginning with such complaints, a barrier arises. We may have seemed to lecture. Goes off his head completely when hes drinking. 69 SEX - We asked God to mold our ideals and help us live up to them. These work-outs should be regarded as part of your education, for thus you will be learning to live. If circumstances warrant, we ask our wives or friends to join us in morning meditation. It was a devastating blow to my pride. We asked him to tell us exactly how it happened. As fast as he can, he pushes these memories far inside himself. For when harboring such feelings we shut ourselves off from the sunlight of the Spirit. If these thoughts occur, they are hazy and readily supplanted with the old threadbare idea that this time we shall handle ourselves like other people. I felt lifted up, as though the great clean wind of a mountain top blew through and through. But in their hearts they really do not know why they do it. He tries every known means to get the jay-walking idea out of his head. Our actor is self-centered-ego-centric, as people like to call it nowadays. Our description of the alcoholic, the chapter to the agnostic, and our personal adventures before and after make clear three pertinent ideas: (a) That we were alcoholic and could not manage our own lives. This page came to me during a desperate moment, bottle in hand, Big Book in the other hand, almost as a challenge to God and A.A. to bring me back from the edge of insanity. You will want to know more of how to proceed from that point. As we say among ourselves, He wants to want to stop.. In the prize ring, this would be called leading with the chin. But the difficulty is that few alcoholics have enough desire to stop while there is yet time. Only a few knew of it at first but, within a short time, it was billboarded throughout the entire company. There had been no more power in him than there was in me at the minute; and this was none at all. Though once like number two he became worse. I knew then. The greatest enemies of us alcoholics are resentment, jealousy, envy, frustration, and fear. Now I had what it takes! My drinking assumed more serious proportions, continuing all day and almost every night. I felt I had every right to be self-confident, that it would be only a matter of exercising my will power and keeping on guard. I had often pondered these things. I had to concede both propositions. If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it-then you are ready to take certain steps. The BB uses words like "ABANDON, CONCEDE & CAPITULATE" is a stronger word than "surrender". We have tried to hold the love of our children for their father. The spirit of modern scientific inquiry, research and invention was almost unknown. One day they called up the head nurse of a local hospital. Painfully aware of being somehow abnormal, the man did not fully realize what it meant to be alcoholic. But after his next binge, ask him if he would really like to get over drinking for good. They had visioned the Great Reality-their loving and All Powerful Creator. Talk about his condition or this book only when he raises the issue. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. It was the end of a perfect day, not a cloud on the horizon. The Explicit MUSTS of the Big Book Page 5 41) page 99: In many homes this is a difficult thing to do, but it must be done if any page 164: God will determine that, so you must remember that your real reliance is page 569: Yet it is true that our first printing gave many readers the impression that Big Book 100. I sat down at a table and ordered a sandwich and a glass of milk. Because of resentment and drinking, he had not paid alimony to his first wife. It is as good for the wife as for the husband. Drink was taking an important and exhilarating part in my life. Many of us had moral and philosophical convictions galore, but we could not live up to them even though we would have liked to. On the way I felt hungry so I stopped at a roadside place where they have a bar. This was only a few days ago at this writing. This is true, the first 164 pages of the original Big Book publication in 1939 has been altered in small ways, such as the one you have mentioned. If he sticks to the idea that he can still control his drinking, tell him that possibly he can-if he is not too alcoholic. The problem with which you struggle usually falls within one of four categories: One: Your husband may be only a heavy drinker. Had you offered yourselves as patients at this hospital, I would not have taken you, if I had been able to avoid it. Though the family does not fully agree with dads spiritual activities, they should let him have his head. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. Sometimes you will have to call a doctor and administer sedatives under his direction. Then came the night when the physical and mental torture was so hellish I feared I would burst through my window, sash and all. From surrounding towns, families drive long distances to be present. May I do Thy will always! We thought well before taking this step making sure we were ready; that we could at last abandon ourselves utterly to Him. Some employers have tried every known remedy. How heartbreaking was this discovery; how cruel to be told they understood our men as we did not! He is remorseful after serious drinking bouts and tells you he wants to stop. In 1929 I contracted golf fever. At first, some of us did not believe we needed this help. I ordered a cocktail and my meal. He may be one of the finest fellows in the world. We must take the lead. He attended church school, where he became rebellious at what he thought an overdose of religious education. Our behavior will convince them more than our words. For the next few years fortune threw money and applause my way. Here they are: AMONG MANY employers nowadays, we think of one member who has spent much of his life in the world of big business. They will approach still other sick ones and fellowships of Alcoholics Anonymous may spring up in each city and hamlet, havens for those who must find a way out. The fact is that most alcoholics, for reasons yet obscure, have lost the power of choice in drink. Nothing would please us so much as to write a book which would contain no basis for contention or argument. We all had to place recovery above everything, for without recovery we would have lost both home and business. To some extent this is already true. He may be anything but that. Let your friends know they are not to change their habits on your account. But by studying this book I learned (p. 29) that the clear-cut directions are in the first 164 pages, but the story section of a different ilk. He wants to enjoy a certain reputation, but knows in his heart he doesnt deserve it. Nevertheless, with a person we dislike, we take the bit in our teeth. Therefore, we started upon a personal inventory. We have listed the people we have hurt by our conduct, and are willing to straighten out the past if we can. See to it that your relationship with Him is right, and great events will come to pass for you and countless others. This is the Great Fact for us. Still physically weak, and sober but a few months, he saw that his predicament was dangerous. We have found nothing incompatible between a powerful spiritual experience and a life of sane and happy usefulness. There are two alcoholic employees, who produce as much as five normal salesmen. You fellows are somebody. If we have obtained permission, have consulted with others, asked God to help and the drastic step is indicated we must not shrink. Putting out of our minds the wrongs others had done, we resolutely looked for our own mistakes. What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind. At first some of us tried to avoid the issue, hoping against hope we were not true alcoholics. It does not exist for us. Then, gathering all his forces, he attempted to stop altogether and found he could not. Here is the fellow who has been puzzling you, especially in his lack of control. If anyone questions whether he has entered this dangerous area, let him try leaving liquor alone for one year. So, you see, there were three alcoholics in that town, who now felt they had to give to others what they had found, or be sunk. He said he was perfectly willing to go to jail if she insisted. We realize some men are thoroughly bad-intentioned, that no amount of patience will make any difference. In that case he is going to wonder how you can add anything to what he already knows. We have begun to develop this vital sixth sense. Let the alcoholic continue his program day by day. You will thus get a better idea of how you ought to proceed. You would suppose that men in the fourth classification would be quite hopeless, but that is not so. Well be down., Two days later, a future fellow of Alcoholics Anonymous stared glassily at the strangers beside his bed. One For The Frog Meaning, His call to the clergyman led him presently to a certain resident of the town, who, though formerly able and respected, was then nearing the nadir of alcoholic despair. Since this book was first published, A.A. has released thousands of alcoholics from asylums and hospitals of every kind. One morning he took the bull by the horns and set out to tell those he feared what his trouble had been. Each is interested in having his or her wishes respected. Sometimes he explodes over a trifle. If his arrangements would only stay put, if only people would do as he wished, the show would be great. Actually my personal favorite text of the Big Book is not IN the 164 pages but speaks OF the program laid out in the first 164 pages. I was not too well at the time, and was plagued by waves of self-pity and resentment. To sum up about sex: We earnestly pray for the right ideal, for guidance in each questionable situation, for sanity, and for the strength to do the right thing. When, therefore, we speak to you of God, we mean your own conception of God. What irony-I became an alcoholic myself! God didnt do it. He will presently try the old game again, for he isnt happy about his sobriety. The point is, that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. A remorseful mumbling that we are sorry wont fill the bill at all. All of us spend much of our spare time in the sort of effort which we are going to describe. They were willing, by day or night, to place a new man in the hospital and visit him afterward. I woke up. Father knows he is to blame; it may take him many seasons of hard work to be restored financially, but he shouldnt be reproached. The publication of this book has not been authorized or endorsed by, and does not imply affilia-tion with Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. or the General Service Office of Alcoholics Anonymous. But one of the friends said, Put him in a private room. This sort of thinking had to be abandoned. And the truth, strange to say, is usually that he has no more idea why he took that first drink than you have. Here are the steps we took, which are suggested as a program of recovery: Many of us exclaimed, What an order! We missed the reality and the beauty of the forest because we were diverted by the ugliness of some of its trees. Dad may feel that for years his drinking has placed him on the wrong side of every argument, but that now he has become a superior person with God on his side. That means we have written a book which we believe to be spiritual as well as moral. I had been overwhelmed. These 164 pages are in the Public Domain Alcoholics Anonymous Screen 6 of 703 Whats in the AA Big Book? The first part, known as the first 164 pages or the "original manuscript" explains the 12 step program and how it can be used to overcome the effects of alcoholism. I had no trouble refusing drinks, and began to wonder if I had not been making too hard work of a simple matter. Social distinctions, petty rivalries and jealousies-these are laughed out of countenance. For three for four months the goose hung high. Some of the promises are directly associated with completion of a step. On our grudge list we set opposite each name our injuries. We find it better, when possible, to stick to our own stories. Instead, you will capitalize them. Then he had gone to Europe, placing himself in the care of a celebrated physician (the psychiatrist, Dr. Jung) who prescribed for him. He had felt only the first nip of the wringer. What was that but a sort of faith? Another time you may have to send for the police or an ambulance. We will seldom be interested in liquor. The majority have never returned. If you desire to help it might be well to disregard your own drinking, or lack of it. So we had to get down to causes and conditions. He clings to the notion that he will yet find a way to do so. I am enclosing an attachment below of the books that the first 100 guys read before there was AA and a Big Book. We suggest you do this as we have done it in the chapter on alcoholism. It isnt fair to me or the firm. Most of us begin to receive some of the promises as soon as we enter a Twelve Step Program. They grew in numbers. We often find such a person quick to see and understand our problem. We feel that elimination of our drinking is but a beginning. My friend suggested what then seemed a novel idea. Fred is partner in a well known accounting firm. He had to painfully admit that and mend his spiritual fences. Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. Use your energies to promote a better understanding all around. The official Big Book from Alcoholic Anonymous. He has been placed in one institution after another. He was interested and conceded that he had some of the symptoms, but he was a long way from admitting that he could do nothing about it himself. Alcoholics Anonymous: The Story of How More Than One Hundred Men Have Recovered from Alcoholism (generally known as The Big Book because of the thickness of the paper used in the first edition) is a 1939 basic text, describing how to recover from alcoholism.Written by William G. "Bill W." Wilson, one of the founders of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and many of the first 100 Common words are needed to keep the book to a reasonable size and an affordable cost.
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